YOU’RE ALLOWED TO BE OPEN, CURIOUS, & AUTHENTIC

Therapy for Kinks, Fetishes & Relationship Diversity

Compassionate therapy online or in-person in Minnesota & online in Vermont

Your sexual interests are nothing to be ashamed of.

There’s nothing wrong with the way you experience pleasure.

You may be curious about exploring sexual interests like kink, BDSM, fetishes, or relationship styles such as consensual or ethical non-monogamy, swinging, or polyamory. This can bring excitement, confusion, and worry about how to navigate these desires and relationship changes without causing hurt, jealousy, or misunderstandings — or even how to bring this up to your partner or to decide if this is something you truly want to do. You might fear judgment or rejection, leading to feelings of shame or isolation that make it hard to fully express your authentic sexual self or connect intimately.

You experience guilt or confusion around specific fetishes or fantasies, feeling as if it is lowering your self-esteem and creating barriers to intimacy with your partner(s), affecting your sexual satisfaction. You may be facing challenges with consent, trust, communication, and boundary-setting, especially within kink, BDSM, and non-traditional relationships, which can cause stress and anxiety as you try to balance your emotional needs with sexual desires and behaviors. These struggles feeling like they are impacting your sexual well-being, confidence, and emotional health.

You deserve compassionate, sex-positive therapy that helps you embrace your unique desires, communicate your needs clearly, and build honest, fulfilling relationships — both with others and yourself.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You worry that if anyone found out about your sexual desires (whether it’s exploring BDSM, power dynamics, fetishes, or consensual non-monogamy) they wouldn’t understand or accept you. Keeping it private feels safer, but it leaves you feeling isolated and disconnected.

  • You question why certain fantasies, objects, or scenarios arouse you, and wonder if it means something is wrong with you. Guilt, shame, and self-doubt keep you stuck, making it harder to feel comfortable and confident in your own sexual identity.

  • The fear of judgment, rejection, or hurting your relationship keeps you from opening up about your sexual needs or fantasies. This leaves you carrying the emotional weight alone, afraid of damaging your connection or being misunderstood.

  • Balancing multiple partners, setting boundaries, and managing feelings like jealousy and insecurity can feel emotionally exhausting. Instead of freedom and connection, you feel stressed, confused, or unsure how to make it work in a healthy way.

  • Hiding or suppressing your desires leaves you feeling out of sync with your own body and sexual well-being. You want to feel empowered and at peace with your sexuality, but instead you feel stuck between wanting more and fearing the consequences.

  • Whether you're drawn to kink, fetish interests, or non-traditional relationship structures, you wonder if your desires are too extreme or outside the norm. This fear makes it hard to fully relax and enjoy intimacy, creating distance in your relationships and emotional strain in your life.

Your sexual desires are unique and completely valid.

Sexual desires, attractions, and fantasies often don’t follow clear rules. Even science can’t fully explain why certain people are drawn to kink, BDSM, fetishes, or “non-traditional relationships” like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, or swinging. What excites you may feel different from what others experience, and that’s okay! Your unique sexual interests are a natural part of who you are, not something to feel ashamed of or hide.

In sex-positive, non-judgmental therapy, you have the space to explore your sexual desires, fantasies, and relationship preferences openly and safely. You can work through feelings of shame, confusion, or anxiety while learning how to fully embrace your sexual identity with confidence.

Whether you're curious about incorporating kink or BDSM into your sex life, navigating polyamorous or open relationships, or understanding your fetish interests, therapy can help you discover how these desires fit into your life in healthy, ethical, and fulfilling ways.

You don’t need to carry fear, guilt, or self-doubt about your sexuality. With the right support, you can feel empowered to express your authentic self, build deeper intimacy with your partner or partners, and find peace and confidence in your sexual well-being.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE

Therapy for kinks, fetishes & relationship diversity can help you:

  • Understand what draws you to your specific sexual desires, fantasies, or relationship interests, so you feel less confused or ashamed about what turns you on.

  • Accept your unique sexual interests as a healthy, natural part of who you are, worthy of confidence, acceptance, and even celebration.

  • Build the confidence to talk openly with your partner or partners about your sexual needs, desires, and boundaries without fear or shame.

  • Develop healthy communication tools to navigate how your sexual interests can fit into your relationships in ways that honor everyone’s comfort, consent, and boundaries.

  • Explore new ways to experience sexual pleasure and intimacy, helping you and your partner or partners create a sex life that feels exciting, fulfilling, and authentic to who you are.

Everyone one of us has unique sexual interests and attractions — and that’s okay.

The bottom line is…

Imagine a life where…

  • You confidently embrace your sexual desires, kinks, and fetishes, feeling fully empowered and accepted in your sexual identity.

  • You communicate openly and honestly with your partner or partners, building deeper trust, intimacy, and emotional connection.

  • You experience sexual pleasure and fulfillment, free from shame, guilt, or fear of judgment.

  • You feel fully at ease with your desires, allowing you to relax, enjoy intimacy, and feel present in the moment.

  • You create strong, authentic relationships with yourself and others, where every part of your sexuality is respected, celebrated, and fully integrated into your life.

Your authentic sexuality deserves to be celebrated.

I’m here to help you fully embrace and celebrate every part of your sexual self."

FAQs

  • Absolutely. Having a kink or fetish is a completely valid part of human sexual expression. Whether your interest involves specific sensations, dynamics, objects, or power play, it's not something that needs to be "fixed" unless it’s causing you distress or interfering with your life. In therapy, we can explore what your desires mean to you — without judgment — and help you better understand, accept, and express this part of yourself.

  • Not here. I work affirmatively with individuals and relationships practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, open relationships, kink/BDSM dynamics, or other non-traditional structures. Therapy with me won’t pathologize your relationship model — instead, we'll explore how to support your goals, strengthen communication, and navigate any challenges unique to your relationship style.

  • Yes, and you're not alone. Many people carry shame, secrecy, or internal conflict about their kinks, fetishes, or fantasies — often rooted in cultural messages, past relationships, or personal experiences. Therapy can help you unpack that shame, redefine your relationship with your sexuality, and move toward a more empowered, confident version of yourself.

  • That’s a common and important part of the work. If you're unsure how to bring up a kink or fetish with your partner, we can walk through it together. Therapy can help you clarify what you want to share, prepare for different responses, and develop communication strategies that respect your needs while honoring your partner’s boundaries. It's all about creating connection — not pressure.

  • This is something we can navigate thoughtfully. Desire discrepancies around kinks or fetishes are common. Therapy can help both of you understand each other's perspectives, identify any boundaries or concerns, and explore creative ways to build sexual connection and trust — even if you don’t share every interest. It’s not about forcing compatibility; it’s about finding what works for you both.

  • Yes — and it’s wise to seek support before, during, or after that transition. Exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM) as a couple or partnership brings up important conversations around boundaries, communication, jealousy, trust, and emotional safety. In therapy, we can help you both clarify your motivations, set realistic expectations, and co-create agreements that feel good for everyone involved. You don’t have to figure this out alone — having a neutral space can make a big difference.